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Author: Oriana

Give Yourself the Gift of Inner Peace

Give Yourself the Gift of Inner Peace

Posted by | Dec 19, 2017 | , |

Christmas is just around the corner, but for some, this holiday season can be far from jolly.   I remember as a child, Christmas was a very stressful time for me, which was masked by an illusion of family happiness and giving. The reality was adults overdrinking/drugging, verbal or physical fights and feelings of disappointment . . .     There was all the hype of what Christmas was supposed to be, followed by a feeling of let-down when it didn’t measure up.   During this season, I am flooded with unpleasant memories.  A particularly traumatic one is being informed on...

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What Being “Recovered” From BPD Really looks like . . .

What Being “Recovered” From BPD Really looks like . . .

Posted by | Dec 1, 2017 | , , |

I wanted to clear up what being recovered from BPD is . . . and what it is not.  The word ‘recovered’ is deceiving . . . Like you are ‘cured’ from an illness.   Recovered in this sense, does not mean you have no more symptoms, or that, your sufferings are now a thing of the past.  Rather, it means that you have progressed to the point where you can handle them.   Having my Psychiatrist say to me “I think you no longer qualify for the disorder” was surreal.  What she meant by it, was that, my personality...

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Does Your Anxiety Prevent You From Problem Solving?

Does Your Anxiety Prevent You From Problem Solving?

Posted by | Nov 22, 2017 | , |

I have come across many individuals (including myself at times) whom responded to situations in such a way that they appeared to be overreacting in comparison to the problem at hand.  To an outsider looking in, the solution may seem obvious, but, to the person affected by their anxious thoughts – impossible.   Once the lower part of the brain – the survival brain – Is triggered, all rational thinking ability literally shuts down . . .  But, what if you are living in that part of the brain – chronically in a state of fight, flight, freeze, fear...

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What Are the Signs Your Mental Health is Decompensating?

What Are the Signs Your Mental Health is Decompensating?

Posted by | Nov 3, 2017 | , |

Having a diagnosis in mental health, such as, Borderline Personality Disorder, a person would be aware of the areas in which their response to stress is weaker, areas such as a sensitivity to rejection and perceived abandonment. Likewise, for someone diagnosed with Panic Disorder, perhaps being in a crowded place would be a trigger.  Knowing this about oneself ahead of time allows one the opportunity to compensate, by making use of helpful coping mechanisms.   Decompensation, is what happens when your usual ways of coping are no longer working, and your symptoms worsen, indicating a decline in your mental...

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Teaching Emotional Regulation to Our Kids

Teaching Emotional Regulation to Our Kids

Posted by | Oct 19, 2017 | , |

Self-soothing and emotional self-regulation are not born within us nor come automatically later in life. Children are completely dependent upon external sources for their soothing and regulating.  Things like pacifiers, blankets, stuffed animals are used before they can develop the internal skills. Since the ability to self-regulate is not possible, they need others to co-regulate their emotions, i.e., like how a mother rocks/bounces a baby or sings to it.   As children progress in age, emotions become bigger and they still have very limited ability to those parts of the brain that help regulate and rationalize emotions (left brain...

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