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Author: Oriana

What Being “Recovered” From BPD Really looks like . . .

I wanted to clear up what being recovered from BPD is . . . and what it is not.  The word ‘recovered’ is deceiving . . . Like you are ‘cured’ from an illness.   Recovered in this sense, does not mean you have no more symptoms, or that, your sufferings are now a thing of the past.  Rather, it means that you have progressed to the point where you can handle them.   Having my Psychiatrist say to me “I think you no longer qualify for the disorder” was surreal.  What she meant by it, was that, my personality...

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Does Your Anxiety Prevent You From Problem Solving?

I have come across many individuals (including myself at times) whom responded to situations in such a way that they appeared to be overreacting in comparison to the problem at hand.  To an outsider looking in, the solution may seem obvious, but, to the person affected by their anxious thoughts – impossible.   Once the lower part of the brain – the survival brain – Is triggered, all rational thinking ability literally shuts down . . .  But, what if you are living in that part of the brain – chronically in a state of fight, flight, freeze, fear...

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What Are the Signs Your Mental Health is Decompensating?

Having a diagnosis in mental health, such as, Borderline Personality Disorder, a person would be aware of the areas in which their response to stress is weaker, areas such as a sensitivity to rejection and perceived abandonment. Likewise, for someone diagnosed with Panic Disorder, perhaps being in a crowded place would be a trigger.  Knowing this about oneself ahead of time allows one the opportunity to compensate, by making use of helpful coping mechanisms.   Decompensation, is what happens when your usual ways of coping are no longer working, and your symptoms worsen, indicating a decline in your mental...

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Teaching Emotional Regulation to Our Kids

Self-soothing and emotional self-regulation are not born within us nor come automatically later in life. Children are completely dependent upon external sources for their soothing and regulating.  Things like pacifiers, blankets, stuffed animals are used before they can develop the internal skills. Since the ability to self-regulate is not possible, they need others to co-regulate their emotions, i.e., like how a mother rocks/bounces a baby or sings to it.   As children progress in age, emotions become bigger and they still have very limited ability to those parts of the brain that help regulate and rationalize emotions (left brain...

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Anxiety Is Like a Thief . . .

Anxiety is a natural response that occurs in our body to alert us to danger.  It is the flight, fight or freeze response that comes from the most primal part of our brain which is geared for survival.  Anxiety in itself, is not a bad thing.  It is a necessary function.  However, the anxiety that most people hear of today has a bad rap – This anxiety exists when legitimate thoughts, and feelings of dread, worry, and fear, last long after the ‘threat’ is gone. It can also be accompanied with unpleasant physical body sensations such as sweating, or...

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